I’ve experienced this with my friends. They really don’t care and when we meet up, the conversation happens between the 2 of them about subjects that I’m not part of and I’m the 3rd wheel.

My friends stopped contact with me. Iv no friends at home now. Am I hurt? For sure. But that’s life.

I think it ebbs and flows. I’ve been living abroad for 13 years and I was and still am close to my family. But I have a family of my own now, and my siblings do, too, and many of my friends from “back home.” Sometimes I am in touch with them more than others, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Try not to take it too personally if they’re not as responsive as you’d like, tone can be hard to read over text.

I believe it’s often because of jealousy.

Vy honest and relatable, an authentic aspect l share btw, the value of people in home country is telegraphed by the fact you wanted to split l learned this being away winters in tropics and having that seem to arise out of envy on returns. Although it has less to do with people than is inferred in earnest. I find relative malaise around me back winters via covid economic political effects. l failed at a visa attempt in a destination country where l planned to retire during covid. Now in hindsight it would have been a bad set evidenced how the country acted with lock downs which were draconian and now having turbo domestic problems, maybe dodged a bullet.

So a general truth regarding friends home in us is no one has enough feel good to share it gratuitously. Some do suck and it’s why l cannot count on the majority of them for squat. I shifted recently to recognize “shine it on” wish em well smile away for the good times and not feel loss as personal or with any spite. its better now and different it will get that way for you l imagine. day at a time if need be. good luck

I think you are just missing home. Just visit often and ask them to visit you. Enjoy them even if it’s dinner or for lunch and don’t think they “don’t care” or not there for you, you may be surprised that once you see them and tell them the funny stories of your adventure, you will have fun with them again.

That’s just sad 😞

Yeah that happens. Try 7 years away and you are only more out of the loop.

I’m at an age where those old friends are having families of their own now, so it’s to be expected.

I try and remind myself that even if I were to have stayed at home, it’s very likely my social circles would have changed anyway.

Friends coming in and going out of your life is pretty normal.

Tradeoffs

That’s normal actually. What’s not so normal is that YOU haven’t moved on to new friends…

That’s strange. I have a different experience. Now that I’m living abroad mostly everyone in my family tries harder to keep in contact with me. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7KzTfwl5WaA&t=13s

Nothing unusual. Few more years, and you will forget them as well. If you had good time in the past, keep it as a good memory. Nothing more.

I feel you. My family is also not super attached nor do they share they’re emotions. Also most of my extended family is in Europe and I’ve grown up away from them so I get a messages from my uncle but everyone else is like once in a blue moon. My mom or dad do sometimes message asking to FaceTime and it’s just to catch up what I’ve been up to or helping me solve a crisis I messaged them week before about

It’s the thing that shocked me the most. Shortly after I moved abroad, everyone acted like I died or ceased to exist. Out of sight out of mind or something. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s been several years for me, so I’m almost accustomed to it.

Having an annual ‘event’ can sometimes be a good way to manage old relationships. It can be an annual Christmas dinner, a weekend of golf, etc.

Then there is no obligation to remain super connected throughout the year, but everyone should show up for that gathering and have a good time.