I’ve moved away from my home country for about a year now.

Whenever I can, I try to stay in touch with family back home via the phone or messaging apps, I’ve never been super attached to my family, but every family has their issues, nevertheless I try my best.

After finally getting my residency in my new country, I was planning on going back home, and I just feel like nobody in my home country cares, I would be writing excited messages about visiting home just to get very cold responses. It feels like everyone has moved on and forgot about me. I know my mom and relatives have never been expressive, but the least you could do is look forward to me visiting. Last week I got covid, although I wasn’t dying or anything, but when I told family members, all they did was reply “take care” and that was it. I know everyone has their own personal problems, but I just can’t help but feel kind of sad that nobody in my home country seems to care about me anymore.

  • Minute-Masterpiece98@alien.topB
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    1 year ago

    Yeah that happens. Try 7 years away and you are only more out of the loop.

    I’m at an age where those old friends are having families of their own now, so it’s to be expected.

    I try and remind myself that even if I were to have stayed at home, it’s very likely my social circles would have changed anyway.

    Friends coming in and going out of your life is pretty normal.

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      1 year ago

      I do the same regarding your comment about reminding myself my situation would be similar had I stayed in my home country.

      I’m not OP, but I got my Portuguese residency within 7 months of applying. It went pretty quickly.

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      1 year ago

      Myself I don’t get this. If it was good and vibing. We stay good. If we did grew apart and lost the vibe. Then fine.

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      1 year ago

      I wasn’t referring to friends as I know those coma and go, was more referring to immediate family