I’ve moved away from my home country for about a year now.
Whenever I can, I try to stay in touch with family back home via the phone or messaging apps, I’ve never been super attached to my family, but every family has their issues, nevertheless I try my best.
After finally getting my residency in my new country, I was planning on going back home, and I just feel like nobody in my home country cares, I would be writing excited messages about visiting home just to get very cold responses. It feels like everyone has moved on and forgot about me. I know my mom and relatives have never been expressive, but the least you could do is look forward to me visiting. Last week I got covid, although I wasn’t dying or anything, but when I told family members, all they did was reply “take care” and that was it. I know everyone has their own personal problems, but I just can’t help but feel kind of sad that nobody in my home country seems to care about me anymore.
I think it ebbs and flows. I’ve been living abroad for 13 years and I was and still am close to my family. But I have a family of my own now, and my siblings do, too, and many of my friends from “back home.” Sometimes I am in touch with them more than others, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Try not to take it too personally if they’re not as responsive as you’d like, tone can be hard to read over text.