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I’m curious, did you know that you were not compatible from the get-go? Or was that something that you realised over time? I don’t think I could’ve started seriously dating my partner, knowing that there was a deadline.
In fact, I’m starting to feel it already. It may take up to 6 months for either of us to leave, and I already feel the dread of the eventual breakup.
Thank you for your kind words. They give me the strength to keep going.
He is not at a place where he’s making plans with us in mind. And he’s told me several times that I should not be doing that either.
Feels like a pretty clear sign that the relationship has run its course. I would’ve been happy to meet him halfway, but was starting to feel like I was the only one willing to put in the effort.
I’ve been told many times that I need to be with someone who’s just as crazy about me as I’m crazy about them. As amazing as my partner is, I know he’s not as invested in me as I him. Perhaps in the future I’ll keep this in mind.
You have a fair point. Rationally, I do believe that there are many people you can be compatible with.
The emotional side of me is getting the better of me, however. Doesn’t help that I have very niche values, and have been told countless times that I’m never gonna find someone. Meeting my partner felt like proving that it was possible, and the fact that I’m losing it is very painful.
My partner has very specific ideas about what he wants, and it feels like there’s no space for me in his plans. I don’t want to beg him to try to make it work.
That’s the thing, until this point my mindset was that I would go wherever he wants to go, because he mattered more to me than the place I ended up.
But when we talked, he made it clear that he wasn’t at the headspace where he was thinking of our future together. That was a bit of a wake up call for me, and I realised I needed to prioritise my desires instead of casting them aside and having nothing to show for it.
Thank you very much.