I’m just a bit heartbroken and could do with some support.
My partner and I met in a country that we both are not from (I’ve been here for most of my life, but it is notoriously difficult to get permanent residency here so I am on a work visa). We’ve been dating for a year and he’s everything I’ve wanted, and more.
We’ve had a couple of difficult conversations over the last few days and have realised that there’s no way to make this relationship work. I want to move to a country that he has no interest in going to, and vice versa.
I don’t know how to deal with the pain of knowing that this was the right person, just the wrong time. On top of that, is this my fate as an expat? Should I only date once I know where I want to “settle down”, so to speak?
I’d say you continue until you find someone who will do what ever it takes. I’m from a super lefty city in Europe and met my now wife on a holiday in Asia. I had my dream job and never wanted to leave my hometown but decided to leave it because I simply loved my wife too much not to at least give it a try. We now still live in Asia (which I don’t like too much) and have two kids. I’m happy and don’t regret a thing despite all the hardships. So stay positive and keep an open mind.
They’re both unwilling to compromise though. She doesn’t want to go to the place he wants to go either, so it’s not like the guy is the hold out
I’ve been told many times that I need to be with someone who’s just as crazy about me as I’m crazy about them. As amazing as my partner is, I know he’s not as invested in me as I him. Perhaps in the future I’ll keep this in mind.