many things and people I loved are gone.
There’s a Welsh word hiraeth that means longing for a place that no longer exists. I think many of us who have moved away and tried to go back home have experienced at least some of this feeling.
I see this beginning to happen around me to citizens as well
I was going to say, it’s not a whole lot better for citizens. If you get really sick you will fight for years to get the disability pension which is still only $530/week. Most people on JobSeeker payment in Australia are sick, or, carers, or a combination and the payment is $375/week which is far below the poverty line.
the Ethiopian landscape and light is so beautiful, you really feel like you’re in the cradle of humanity, it all just feels ancient.
Ooh that sounds right up my alley!
You moved from somewhere “bad” to somewhere “better” and you’re still unhappy, though blaming it on the previous place.
What? You’re making a massive assumption with no evidence. Moving brought an instant massive improvement to my life and solved just about every problem I was having in the place that wasn’t a good fit. Life is better on every metric.
However I am still paying the price for what the previous place did to my health. That’s how damaging living in the “wrong” place can be for some people. If you don’t believe that that’s your problem.
It’s hard to sympathize with your plight because I don’t really see the issue tbh. You have what probably 99% want. You are winning life and yet you are sad.
Comments like this annoy me. Just because someone has what lots of other people want doesn’t mean their life is perfect and fulfilled.
Culture is really important. If you’re someone who values warmth and openness and community and you’re in a cold unwelcoming society it can cause massive depression.
Everyone is different, what makes people happy is different from person to person, and I don’t believe the whole “you should be happy wherever you are”, happiness is very much linked to external circumstances just as much as internal.
I think you already know well how the Indian office works or how the managers treat people there.
I’m curious about this. What is Indian corporate culture like? High pressure?
It must be a brain chemical thing that some of us are sensitive to. Sunshine just makes me happy.
I moved from one of the sunniest cities in the world (Perth Western Australia) to a place with cold dark winters. To put it mildly, I could not cope. Unbeknownst to me I ended up getting really really severe SAD and was sick for about 8 months of every year. My health collapsed and I could barely function.
Now I’m back home getting full strength sunshine and zero problems.
You’re not weird or wrong. Some people are just hyper sensitive to cold and dark in winter. It’s okay to go where you feel happy!
It’s hard to settle down when you can’t afford a house and kids in your own country.