a lot of people have said this, but at the risk of sounding like a giant snob, having grown up in a city as big and in movement as new york, i even found it an adjustment to come around to what i perceive as a slower, smaller life in paris. i think i would go completely insane if i went any smaller

not sure i could handle winter

for some reason i can’t express it well, but i just am from the us - living there is “easy” in the sense that i have no visa, work constraints, language barrier, etc, whereas in france i am literally asking to be here, working to be here, accepting the trials that come with immigrating in order to be here, so it feels more like “choosing” a country with growing fascism than if i were to be in the united states, my home country with many things that make my (me, personally) life easier… i hope it makes sense

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anyway i answered someone else who made the point about me being “the problem,” don’t really agree with the way you put it because just because x works for someone doesn’t mean it works for someone else, different strokes and all that, but i am also seeking therapy to help me work through these things before making any rash decisions

mostly what’s taken me back the last couple years have been family and friend events (marriage, death, illness), before I was going back less. Now i can’t see myself going back less than once a year.

i also have thankfully traveled a lot around europe and south america while here, but yeah i generally go to the US once every year

you are right, definitely better paid than a lot of people here, but yeah can’t really save and its less than half the smallest US salary of any of my friends in similar education level / career paths

yeah you can absolutely find high energy people, its maybe more of a work culture / everyday like errands thing where people are not as “bubbly,” its not even something i always have a problem with tbh but when i’m down about paris its something i think about!

now i’m really gonna sound like an assole… but I grew up in new york and my brain is broken and needs a big city

seems ironic given my post, but yeah i’m in the process, and that’s part of what’s keeping me here

i’ve been eligible because i completed a Master’s degree here in 2 years, plus now i have reached the 5 years residency

Cerenity1000 can fuck all the way off, that person doesn’t know anything about me, and i am speaking about the institutional xenophobia, a concept that i think they are not capable of understanding from their corner of hate

thanks for this reply, this is part of why i’m not gone yet, i don’t want to leave with my rose-colored glasses, regret it, and have to start back from square one (visa-wise) if i want to come back

gonna shut this down already bc i stupidly left in one sentence of a political opinion that was too inviting to all the right wing assholes on here, it is truly my bad. although your hatefulness to the very idea that france could be xenophobic and immediately calling me gaucho trash and talking about the 93 … proves my point :)