I miss Cali but it’s so expensive and all my friend groups are moving away to raise their families. For my career DC will always be better with higher salaries than CA so it’s just not an option anymore. My old townhouse I rented for $1950 in 2019 is now going for $2900. The housing market is not sustainable for middle incomes but I miss the sun and the beach

I love the walkability, the social culture, quality of healthcare and low violent crime. In the US my daughter’s school had several lock downs because of an active shooter and one student who was a self proclaimed white nationalist said he was going to shoot up the school and posted videos of himself on Facebook shooting in the woods with a confederate flag draped. I lived in a predominantly white suburb just outside of a military base in a DC suburb. I’m glad I don’t have to raise anymore kids in the US and sad that people think this is normal or dismiss these things as being “woke”. The politics in France isn’t perfect but it is less toxic and polarizing. The food is also better and has helped me heal from my autoimmune disorders

Thissss but sounds like it could be the whole family.

They resent you for leaving and are trying to emotionally manipulate you into coming back. Their behavior is abusive and id never go back just to appease my family. Ifs your life, you’re grown live it as you see fit and do what makes you happy/ they seem like an unhappy bunch that you’d have to continually set boundaries for and you’d only be miserable. I have a family member that is the same way and I had to limit my contact with them

Sounds like they’d be acting the same way if you were in your home country