Long lost alert. Background: I’m from South East Asia. I always liked the slow life. I prefer a life of simplicity. I am not lazy, I’ve worked long hours before.I just feel overwhelmed by the grief of losing My father, doing a lifeless job that takes 8 hours of my life and leaves me no time to spend with my mother(sons stay and take care of their parents in my culture) . My anxiety, depression and The lack of social life also effects me immensely(Mental health is horrible in my country). I barely have any close friends. The city I live in, Dhaka, is a megacity. The commute is hell, often taking three hours to reach home. There’s a void in me. I cry whenever I think I’ll have to get up at 6 am to go to work tomorrow. My colleagues are nice, and good people, I don’t blame them. The work culture in my country is to underpay and overwork. Job’s are so hard to come by that no one complains, and the bosses know this. The only reason why I haven’t taken my life is because there’s no one else to look after my mom. Why I finally decided to try and move out: A recent murder shook me. This guy was commuting on a bike. These assassins (I’m not kidding), targeted a known crime boss that was sitting in a car next to the biker. When they opened fire,the guy on the bike suffered a gsw to the head. He died after being in a coma for three days. He left behind a child and mom.
I need advice. I want to leave this shitty country( My mother Will temporarily stay with her sister in Canada for a while until I can secure immigration) and permanently move to another country. It may sound like immature thinking, but can you suggest me immigration destinations that ideally should have the following:
A) comparatively low population density, friendly to immigrants who adapt to local cultures. Basically, smaller cities or countries that are peaceful. B) Jobs that have short working hours. I don’t mind if short working hours means lesser pay, as long as I can afford living costs. C) definitely security, after the murder that happened,I just want to live somewhere safe. D) immigration policy Will preferably allow me to bring my mother here. If possible.
I know it’s a very long post and I may seem nieve. I just want to leave this maddening jungle of a city and this cesspit of a country.
Norway
I have friends in your country. You are f**ked bro. From what you tell me here, I think some European countries would be better for you. Value of life is not so cheap there. Best of luck.
truly and thoroughly f***ED
Honest answer is you are going to struggle to go anywhere.
What level of education do you have? The problem you will have is your current industry. I find it unlikely any newspapers, tv stations etc will offer you a position in wherever it is you would like to go to.
You are looking at the shorter working hours / lesser pay issue the wrong way around. To move to most developed countries you will be expected to earn a salary above the national average, meaning you will need a high skill set.
When I left my country, which is also in Southeast Asia, I had similar dreams of living a “slow life” with beautiful scenery, lakes and parks around me. When I moved to a small city in a first world country, which is extremely beautiful, I came to realize that wherever I go my problems will follow me. Moving to a new country is often not the solution we are looking for. If you move to Canada or any other first world country your problems will worsen since you’ll have to grind even harder.
Try moving to close to your office, upskilling yourself and find a higher-paying job.
Germany and any of the the Scandinavian countries might fit your requirements. The tricky part would be gaining a visa that would allow you to live and work in the EU/EEA.
Racism is something you should consider/be prepared for. If you are used to living in your own country, it may be something that you have not really experienced. While north west Europe doesn’t have the same level of racism as the USA, it does exist.
Sounds like a winner!
he should come to the netherlands, right?
Not to be rude what do you bring to the table? Do you have in demand skills/degree? You may not be in the position to have lots of requirements regarding your new country, especially if you only have a Bangladeshi passport.
I studied Journalism. I have experience in graphic design, photography(5 + years of experience )and post processing.I have a bilingual level fluency in English. I’m currently learning web development, but it’s going slow.
Midwest and grew up with very sad childhood always getting picked on for being the only asian kid
As an American, reading his post and replies, his grasp of the English language is better than 98% of Americans…FWIW.
you have got to be joking
Fellow Bangladeshi here in Estonia. Came here as a student with scholarship for masters at Tartu university. Low population but you will eventually need to learn the language upto B1 for long term permit. Then you can switch to another european country if you want warmer climate.
Your skills are not saturated, so there’s reasonable amount of opportunities here, especially if you can get web development and similar IT skills. The capital is expensive though but as a single person, the salary for IT will be more than enough to save as well. But if you want to stick to flexible work, you can live on your photography and video gigs.
Racism - there will def be some slurs thrown at you but you have little reason to fear for your life (i speak as a woman). Admittingly, brown women do have better experience than brown men.
Let me know if you have questions.
Thank you, this means a lot!
Life isn’t always easy in Western countries. That being said, in your situation, English speaking countries would be your best option. I’d recommend the US first and then Canada as a second choice. Moving to Canada seems a lot easier but you’d have to meet the requirements and go through the whole process.
I wouldn’t call life in the US slow.
The US is huge with small, medium sized and large cities. There’s slower paced places. Western Europe has some hectic large cities and capitals, long commutes involved and many other issues…
In his situation he just wants to get out and he needs to see which country is easy to migrate to when it comes to all the legal requirements and what not…
Bro I’m so sorry but if you’re planning on coming to Canada you’re going to work twice as hard, you’re not going to have the slow life here because you’ll be here for the sole purpose of working to keep our economy afloat. You’ll be one among an army of foreign labourers flooding the country to keep our social welfare system from collapsing.
OP knows this!!! That is why s/he wants to leave!!! You’re doing a great job at depressing an already depressed person.
Plus housing, some immigrants are literally living in tents and winter is coming. Canada is only good for slumlords. Employers will also hire a Canadian over anyone with a work permit, they will fire you without a warning as employees especially immigrants aren’t really protected.
This.
Op do what you can to either move closer to work, or find work closer to you.
The perks of living in a mega city is that you don’t have to go far for anything… what’s the point of living in the most dense and connected place if you work 3 hours away from your home and also have to drive there?
There are complications to moving, until I can sort out paperwork for the house we live in we can’t move. That will take time because the legal process(succession )in my country is extremely slow. Then there’s the thing of bribing local officials to have your paperwork move from one department to another.
Reason we have to stay: there are people who’ll try and “grab” the land if we leave. That means another host of legal trouble.
Canada chews up immigrants and spits them out. The relatively low wages to the CoL, means a lot of them spend a few years burning through what money they have, only to burn out and go back home. Rinse & Repeat, Canada will continue the immigrant churn - crushing the hopes of migrants and suppressing wages for the locals. The only ones who benefit is big business & rental owners.
Can confirm. My brother lives there and the OT is insane. Rent is unaffordable for most. He has a great paying job and they still can’t afford it on a single income. Now his wife has to go back to work just so they can afford childcare.
Isn’t childcare free?
It doesn’t. I’m an immigrant in Canada. I live in one of the most expensive neighborhoods in Toronto. I know others like me.
This is not everyone’s story.
I think OP is just relocating his mother there since she needs a care taker. If that’s the only place his mother can go to (family reunion), then I don’t think he has much choice besides Canada tbh. I would advise OP to go to Canada if that is the only place his mother can relocate to
yeah, that’s the problem, i can’t leave my mom alone. She’ll move to Canada while I try for immigration for other countries. Might be forced to choose Canada if no other option is present.
I’m sure Canada will be much much better than where you are currently at. Please do not let other Redditors discourage you. Other Redditors here are being extra whinging. No country is perfect
Good on you for planning a fresh start! What industry do you work in?
My major was journalism, I’m currently employed as a journalist. I have additional skills in photography, graphics Design, video editing and web development (learning).
Singapore, New Zealand, Australia and Ireland (in big cities) is fine. Malaysia is also not a bad choice if you’re going in as a skilled migrant despite being Bangladeshi.
I would also say NL but given recent it’s recent political situation, it might not be the best solution. But migrating to EU in general isn’t easy (despite seemingly otherwise) because you should ideally be very experienced in your field or that your field is in high demand in each country (e.g. Healthcare sector for Germany, IT for Netherlands, Analyst/Accountant/Auditors for Luxembourg and Switzerland). Additionally, it helps alot of you learn atleast 1 EU language to the country you’re working in.
I’m SEA myself and I left because of the ongoing civil war so I understand your situation. But I taught myself to be atleast business level in 3 EU language before taking the risk and settling down. It also helped that my industry is quite highly sought after so that also helped my position a little.
Moving to a Western country may not be as promising as it seems though.😜Its easy to be lured in by the promise of a better quality of life and increased opportunities. However, it’s crucial to take a step back and acknowledge that these factors are subjective and vary from person to person. What may be considered a better quality of life for one individual may not be the same for another. You also need to work for it.
Additionally, it’s important to keep in mind that no matter where you go, challenges are inevitable. Whether it’s adjusting to a new culture, finding employment, or establishing a social circle, relocating comes with its own set of obstacles and still facing/dealing those challenges with your family.
Get into IT or coding and shit and get job in USA that pays big money then move back a king after some years
If your not mentally well Canada aint the place to go. Workers rights are non existant.
Compared to… where?
Germany? Its near impossible to get fired or let go after your probation time. Leagues ahead of Canada. Plus they actually consider burn out and mental health part of sickness so you can take paid time off if your not well mentally.