I think in this case you should defer to your significant other. he knows exactly what it’s like to live there and he chose Texas. I think the fact that you live in an affordable area in a state that allows you to go wherever you want is a freedom you’ll miss very quickly. That’s said, you may want to consider just going South. There are great parts of Mexico to live in very affordable, or even farther South to Costa Rica. If you have the money to travel, just do that for now. Really get to know the world and most importantly talked to locals when you go, don’t just view it as a tourist. and then maybe the two of you can find a place that meets both of your needs.

It would be very odd for your parents not to understand why you wanna return to the U. S. I think you may be overthinking it. But you know your parents better than I do. Also, he works for the American government. So, if there is financial aid, it should take care of you in an American school. If it doesn’t, you can go to a community college in California to start to get your feet , get settled, and then move on. Good luck.

Thx!

Everything you say makes sense. You didn’t choose to move there. And the culture is just not a good fit for you. Why don’t you just make this easy on yourself and your family and go back to school in California? You really do need to go to college and not try to do everything from scratch. And this would buy you plenty of time to get your life sorted out. And then also to eventually find a career. I can’t believe your family would be upset to hear that you wanna go to college, and I imagine as your dad is in the military, there’s likely to be some financial aid.

There are communities of color as well as Jewish people who still are very much like this in America. But for the most part, the voluntary busyness of American culture does not leave time for this type of support. In addition, while people in many other countries tend to remain in their community for life (whether by choice, culture, or circumstances), Americans are the most transient people on the planet, in a very large country. So there is less opportunity to provide this kind of support.

I meant it’s technically not southern Italy.

Dude if you can afford to live there go for it. Even Rome is warmer and sunnier than Germany.