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1 year agoformer expat here… they have no clue about the time, money and effort it takes to travel from where are you live back to the home country. They take it as a given …an expectation. I’m not sure if they’re “getting back at you” by asking for money for lodging or if they really just don’t want you back or they don’t like the change in their routines. I would not give them any money for lodging or transportation and next year. Don’t come home for Christmas. ” oh, I’m not coming this year. It seems like it was bothering you all too much. “ You all have your lives to live and all that.” I don’t need to spend $2000 to bother you. I’m sure I can bother you from here.”
I’ve been on both sides…. we moved to Germany for three years, and then came back to the US and now my oldest daughter lives in Germany… I never give her a hard time for not visiting Moore and I’m delighted when she comes and try to take care of everything I can for her because I know what it’s like to spend a lot of money and time to travel and people not appreciate that