It’s called ‘American dream’ for a reason. It’s a country that people who truly work hard and never stop grinding will be rewarded. But that also mean laid back people will not be happy.

The only country I visitted in Europe was France and I felt pretty unsafe there… maybe I did a bad choicing.

Any East Asian country beat it easily, by far ahead.

Japan, Yes sometimes mean No and No sometiems mean Yes depend on the context.

大丈夫です Can mean both

As an expat this is absolutely nightmare situation to be in, both you and your husband… I don’t have the ability to give advise that make sense but I wish you all the best.