Western culture is uncomfortable about death. My grief group discussed this. Basically, a couple people brought us food, but that’s it. We wished there was a way for people (public) to know you’re grieving, instead of thinking you’re just being weird and clueless in the grocery store. A year’s worth of wearing black sounds good to me, if it means people extend grace. But everyone wears black all the time, so we don’t have very good supportive community rituals and traditions around death here, likely due to our “rugged individualism” ideals.
Yes - that is what I wish existed today. We don’t have any current traditions like that anymore, aside from gold stars for military families.