Hey there, currently facing a dilemma.
I’m not able to go back to my origin country for the holidays due to money, scheduling, flying in the winter being miserable, being horribly depressed just stuck in my parents house, and a friend recently moving to my new country and wanting to be there for them.
How do I even begin to tell my family that I’m not coming back? They’re trying to include me in a gift exchange (without having asked…), and just fully expect me to come back like I did last year. I’ve told them I don’t know about vacation time yet, but I’m not really sure what to say at this point.
Do I just lie and say I couldn’t get the time approved? Or do I tell the truth that I just don’t want to do all that travel and spend all that money…
Why is there even an expectation on your part or on your family part that migrants always come home for holidays?
When I was planning my migration I knew, my family knew that’s there will be times when visiting home will not be possible for numerous reasons.
Telling yourself and your family: “don’t worry about my migration. I am only moving short flight away” is being dishonest.
Time to be honest and admit to everyone that there will be many times when visiting home will not happen.