I came to a country to find a job, I found it, but housing was difficult so the owner of the company helped me with accomodations for 1 month. I found a place of my own right after one month. The thing is: I don’t want to stay in the job (after two months) and in the country, for several reasons. Should I be clear that I am not enjoying the job? Or should I blame the country and avoid being sincere since they helped me? I just don’t want to sound like a bad person.
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I say stick it out for a little longer than like 15 minutes.
Stop worrying about sounding like a bad person. Work is work. You do not owe your employers insight into your internal feelings or aspirations.
If you are in a professional capacity, turning up and doing the job, then it is simply none of their business if you want to leave or dream about leaving or are planning on leaving.
Do be aware that local customs may not match up to this advice however, but at the same time if you hire foreigners you get foreigners.
Don’t make commitments they could hold you to, especially anything written down, and make sure you know local laws around employment.
Having needs and preferences isn’t being a bad person. And your boss is just your boss.
They don’t need to know what you think. They helped you. Say thank you and show reasonable gratitude. You don’t have to live your life for them. Just appreciate what they did. They found housing for a month for an employee.
The boss doesn’t need to know why you want to leave or anything connected to your feelings. The boss does need to know anything connected to the contract you have together. Fill your legal obligations politely. And that’s the extent of your relationship. You don’t owe each other anything else.
First of all, bad person? You want what you want and you don’t owe your happiness or health to a job. So don’t think of it in that terms
Then as an immigrant myself with an organization that hired a lot internationals, it’s really common for people not to want to stay or be unhappy with an international move. It’s hard to know if you’ll like a place and it’s a lot harder than most people expect to change countries.
Anyway, I’d just re look at your contract, sometimes you have to pay back moving expenses if you don’t stay x amount of months, things like that, but they will be explicitly stated if it’s the case.
All that said, I know for the first 6 months I really struggled with my new city but after that I really loved where I lived and my new country. So I’d consider if maybe you are just temporarily unhappy because so much has changed. Not to stay you must stick it out but it’s something to consider, I don’t think the first few months are easy for anyone
I mean, yeah, do you. But I’m gonna go against the grain and say stick it out until at least 6 months; 1 year if you can make it.
Obv your mental health and safety are priority, but if it’s just not liking where you’re at currently, then here’s why I say this:
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the dust has hardly settled. Frustrations from international moves is typical; feelings of alienation and disruption breed contempt. But once you establish more permanent routines and go through at least a few seasons, you will probably find a groove
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the other commenters are right: work is work and your moral qualms are moot… but employers talk. I don’t know how big or small your industry is but if you don’t at least appear to give their investment a chance to pay itself off, you may burn yourself.
You are obviously free to discard this perspective, but the entire comment section going full tilt towards fuck 'em, bail seemed a bit blind to these factors
agree. mental health is the most important, but if you are this weak mentally, you shouldn’t leave your parent’s house.
most people get into debt to move to a country, go to school to learn the language, work part time at the same time to make ends after a couple of years enter a entry level job with shit salary just to start a career.
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Life is inpredictable. Eat dessert first.
You know what would be a bad person? Someone forcing you to stay or making you feel guilty for not wanting to stay.
If it doesn’t work, doesn’t work be honest and open, maybe something can be accommodated to make you feel better but even if not, no need to conceal the truth.
Take that from someone who also relocated and is 3 years in a job that knew after a week that wasn’t for him 😂😂😂
As long as your boss didn’t pay for you to move to the new country, you really only owe them what you think would compensate for them helping you with accommodation for 1 month.
On the other hand, leaving a job after 2 months will look bad on your resume. Before you talk with your boss, think about what would make you happy working for that company. Be ready to tell the boss that if they ask. If your boss is not open to the ideas that would make you happy in the job, ask whether there would be a problem if you looked for another job.
Life is short. No need to stay in an unsatisfying situation if you don’t have to. If your boss likes you, there is a good chance that they will be accommodating so they can keep you. If not, find a new job before you quit the current job.