Long lost alert. Background: I’m from South East Asia. I always liked the slow life. I prefer a life of simplicity. I am not lazy, I’ve worked long hours before.I just feel overwhelmed by the grief of losing My father, doing a lifeless job that takes 8 hours of my life and leaves me no time to spend with my mother(sons stay and take care of their parents in my culture) . My anxiety, depression and The lack of social life also effects me immensely(Mental health is horrible in my country). I barely have any close friends. The city I live in, Dhaka, is a megacity. The commute is hell, often taking three hours to reach home. There’s a void in me. I cry whenever I think I’ll have to get up at 6 am to go to work tomorrow. My colleagues are nice, and good people, I don’t blame them. The work culture in my country is to underpay and overwork. Job’s are so hard to come by that no one complains, and the bosses know this. The only reason why I haven’t taken my life is because there’s no one else to look after my mom. Why I finally decided to try and move out: A recent murder shook me. This guy was commuting on a bike. These assassins (I’m not kidding), targeted a known crime boss that was sitting in a car next to the biker. When they opened fire,the guy on the bike suffered a gsw to the head. He died after being in a coma for three days. He left behind a child and mom.
I need advice. I want to leave this shitty country( My mother Will temporarily stay with her sister in Canada for a while until I can secure immigration) and permanently move to another country. It may sound like immature thinking, but can you suggest me immigration destinations that ideally should have the following:
A) comparatively low population density, friendly to immigrants who adapt to local cultures. Basically, smaller cities or countries that are peaceful. B) Jobs that have short working hours. I don’t mind if short working hours means lesser pay, as long as I can afford living costs. C) definitely security, after the murder that happened,I just want to live somewhere safe. D) immigration policy Will preferably allow me to bring my mother here. If possible.
I know it’s a very long post and I may seem nieve. I just want to leave this maddening jungle of a city and this cesspit of a country.
Canada has labor programs and labor shortages in rural remote areas. You may want to upskill yourself and apply for those. My cousins wife applied for the boutique spa manager role and the family that owned the Resort, sponsored her and her husband (whose now studying to be an electrical engineer)
It’s beautiful and peaceful place (in remote rural areas) but comes with all the hurdles of relocating and missing food, family and dealing with the cold (a big challenge for someone who thrives in tropical climates) and if you’re in a rural remote area there’s the lack of socialization at the level that the city has.
Pros: Your accommodation is paid for. You are working and saving and most Canadian families are very welcoming and will tour around to show you the landscape…
In my cousin’s case they had each other. I know he’s ego was bruised when he couldn’t work(due to waiting for work permits and needing to completely restudy since his credentials couldn’t transfer )and had to depend on his wife (this was something he had never experienced and he felt less of a man- but we literally had to let him know that it’s temporary and be supportive) Waiting to be able to work is probably the most frustrating part too.
Western nations will appreciate those who add value. For anyone coming from a developing country where unemployment is 36%+ lower mobility, Anything below that is nothing.
Competition exists all over the world, the difference is the western nations is FILLED with people who will not do things below their “standard”… this is why some pick on immigrants. Although, if you come from survival mode it’s all one knows. The concept of convenience is very western. It doesn’t exist in the developing world. Hardship, is more common than convenience.
Labor costs more in the west! When doing currency conversions, the amount earned supersedes everything.
Go after what you want, it’s your journey and you learn through DOING. Even if you change your mind along the way, it’s still YOUR journey. Good luck!!
Thank you for this, it means a lot. As for missing food, family. I barely have any family here accept my mother. She will move too, if my target country allows. My social life is virtually nonexistent right now because of the horrible work life balance i have here. IF rural Canada is beautiful, at least I have some peace of mind in nature (Its an overpopulated concrete jungle here and I hate it). The cold, while difficult to adjust, might actually be preferable to the heat (bonus extreme pollution) of my city.