Hey guys. I’m 25F. I was raised in the Middle East, Dubai/Bahrain and have had a fabulous life there. I moved to italy a couple of years ago and loved it way more than I liked the Middle East. It started to feel like home there. I’m a national of a horrible weak country so I don’t have the option to just pack my bags up and move.

My husband is American so I moved to America about 4 days ago but am finding it extremely hard to adjust. I’ve travelled here before but have not loved it as much so moving here permanently has been extremely challenging. I keep crying everyday no matter what I do, I’m struggling to adapt and fit in.

Any advice to overcome this?

  • Plenty_Suspect_3446@alien.top
    BEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I moved to America about 4 days ago

    Take a deep breath. If you start feeling anxious go for a walk. Give it time. 4 days is not even close to enough time to adapt and fit in. You are probably still jet lagged.

    • No_Possibility4904@alien.topOPBEnglish
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      1 year ago

      probably. I’ve been here before for sure but I think it’s the part of not having my own space or house I guess? Currently we’re with his family while we house hunt so it’s been a whole struggle. They’re lovely people but I just want my own home to come back to because culturally, even eating wise, we’re very different people

      • Plenty_Suspect_3446@alien.top
        BEnglish
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        1 year ago

        I get that, I like to have my own space. Moving is stressful especially moving to a new country. Try not to get overwhelmed by the situation, by everything. I know it’s easier said than done but it’s really early days and given time things will start to feel settled. For now take things one day at a time. Do something to help yourself feel calm and comfortable, something that feels familiar, for example re-read your favourite book. Rewatch your favourite films or tv show. Eat some food you love. Cook something to share your culture with your husbands family if they are open to it. Be patient with his family because it will be an adjustment for them to have him back and to open their home. Sooner or later you and your husband will get your own house with your own space. Before long you will feel settled and you will look back and be proud of how you handled this time in your life.