I get that, I like to have my own space. Moving is stressful especially moving to a new country. Try not to get overwhelmed by the situation, by everything. I know it’s easier said than done but it’s really early days and given time things will start to feel settled. For now take things one day at a time. Do something to help yourself feel calm and comfortable, something that feels familiar, for example re-read your favourite book. Rewatch your favourite films or tv show. Eat some food you love. Cook something to share your culture with your husbands family if they are open to it. Be patient with his family because it will be an adjustment for them to have him back and to open their home. Sooner or later you and your husband will get your own house with your own space. Before long you will feel settled and you will look back and be proud of how you handled this time in your life.

I moved to America about 4 days ago

Take a deep breath. If you start feeling anxious go for a walk. Give it time. 4 days is not even close to enough time to adapt and fit in. You are probably still jet lagged.

Are all governments corrupt?

yes

Are they all at risk of war?

not every country is at risk of being invaded but every country has allegiances that could see them participate in some unforeseen war

Are rich people and corporations given legal passes and tax breaks everywhere?

yes

Is there gang violence,

yes

racism

yes

sexism

yes

everywhere?

yes

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The country you are in has the freedom and infrastructure to post on reddit. That says a lot.

I was going to make a long blog post but that would probably be excessive and disproportionate for the thread so i’ll keep it to a minimum.

Moved from NZ to the UK in June 2018. When I moved I thought id visit every third year (2021, 2024, etc). 5 years at most between visits. I’ve not been back yet.

I cant seriously envision myself going back even for a visit for a few more years although i’d like to but my circumstances are far from a similar situation to OP.