I’ve moved away from my home country for about a year now.
Whenever I can, I try to stay in touch with family back home via the phone or messaging apps, I’ve never been super attached to my family, but every family has their issues, nevertheless I try my best.
After finally getting my residency in my new country, I was planning on going back home, and I just feel like nobody in my home country cares, I would be writing excited messages about visiting home just to get very cold responses. It feels like everyone has moved on and forgot about me. I know my mom and relatives have never been expressive, but the least you could do is look forward to me visiting. Last week I got covid, although I wasn’t dying or anything, but when I told family members, all they did was reply “take care” and that was it. I know everyone has their own personal problems, but I just can’t help but feel kind of sad that nobody in my home country seems to care about me anymore.
I’m also not super attached to my family and let me assure you it has nothing to do with you going international. When I left my hometown for the first time, just to move a couple of states away, that’s when it began. One country later, then back to that same state, then the opposite coastline, and now another country change coming up, I am sure it won’t change. I hope you aren’t considering moving back just for that.
This is what I remember when my husband asks about moving to the US. We romanticize the US a bit and having family nearby but then remember my family is too lazy and we’ve never been close anyway… Unless we lived in the same town (unlikely) we’d never see them anyway. I’ve been gone over 16 years now so that’s kinda just how it it. I’m here, they’re there.