I’ve moved away from my home country for about a year now.
Whenever I can, I try to stay in touch with family back home via the phone or messaging apps, I’ve never been super attached to my family, but every family has their issues, nevertheless I try my best.
After finally getting my residency in my new country, I was planning on going back home, and I just feel like nobody in my home country cares, I would be writing excited messages about visiting home just to get very cold responses. It feels like everyone has moved on and forgot about me. I know my mom and relatives have never been expressive, but the least you could do is look forward to me visiting. Last week I got covid, although I wasn’t dying or anything, but when I told family members, all they did was reply “take care” and that was it. I know everyone has their own personal problems, but I just can’t help but feel kind of sad that nobody in my home country seems to care about me anymore.
The first time I moved away from home was to go to university in a bigger city within my country.
The I moved to another country for 2 years and finally I moved to a third country permanently (it’s been 12 years).
Well, life has kept moving on in my home town. Frienda got married, had kids, died at young age without me being there. It’s part of the choice I have made.
At first it was always me getting in contact when I was back in town. Then I got angry with my friends because they were not making any effort to keep the relationship alive.
It took me some years to figure out that’s life. Some friends and family hurt more than others but I am still in contact with a handful of them, and that’s fair.
Life moved on for everyone.