I’ve moved away from my home country for about a year now.
Whenever I can, I try to stay in touch with family back home via the phone or messaging apps, I’ve never been super attached to my family, but every family has their issues, nevertheless I try my best.
After finally getting my residency in my new country, I was planning on going back home, and I just feel like nobody in my home country cares, I would be writing excited messages about visiting home just to get very cold responses. It feels like everyone has moved on and forgot about me. I know my mom and relatives have never been expressive, but the least you could do is look forward to me visiting. Last week I got covid, although I wasn’t dying or anything, but when I told family members, all they did was reply “take care” and that was it. I know everyone has their own personal problems, but I just can’t help but feel kind of sad that nobody in my home country seems to care about me anymore.
Yeah, life moves on while your gone, and the place you had in their lives before you left is filled with other things or people. It’s just the nature of things. It can be painful for sure, but that’s where your relationships in your new home come in. It’s healthy to have relationships with new people–people who didn’t know you when you were someone else in a different place.
You know what they say–you can’t go home again.