I’ve moved away from my home country for about a year now.
Whenever I can, I try to stay in touch with family back home via the phone or messaging apps, I’ve never been super attached to my family, but every family has their issues, nevertheless I try my best.
After finally getting my residency in my new country, I was planning on going back home, and I just feel like nobody in my home country cares, I would be writing excited messages about visiting home just to get very cold responses. It feels like everyone has moved on and forgot about me. I know my mom and relatives have never been expressive, but the least you could do is look forward to me visiting. Last week I got covid, although I wasn’t dying or anything, but when I told family members, all they did was reply “take care” and that was it. I know everyone has their own personal problems, but I just can’t help but feel kind of sad that nobody in my home country seems to care about me anymore.
These replies are a little harsh, jeez. It’s completely reasonable to feel the way you do. Most people would in your shoes. However, it’s also reasonable of the people you left behind to feel the way you do. If you weren’t close to them, they’re not gonna feel much or have much to say.
I experienced something very similar emotionally once, but in an entirely different situation. I felt alone and frustrated, but after a while, I realized I had built up a fake version of my connection to other people in my mind. I wasn’t close to certain people, and they weren’t close to me, so it was silly of me to think, “Well, these circumstances are special. They should care about this one thing.” It wasn’t wrong for me to feel upset, but it was important not to hang on to it and to accept reality as it was, not what I wanted it to be.
Thanks for your neutral response, yeah I was just stating how I feel and I’m not sure what’s all the negativity about me being dramatic, I think I have the right to feel how I feel? But you are right about being realistic, solid advice .