Long story short, I got ridiculously homesick over the past 3 years and decided it was time to go and visit family. It literally wasn’t financially possible to go with my wife, but everyone seems to be commenting on the fact that I came alone?
It’s like ‘it’s great to see you, but it would have been nice to see you with your wife’ and ‘isn’t your wife sad that you came without her?’
The way me and my wife saw it was that all of my friends and family are in this country, whereas hers are in the place we decided to live in. If we don’t have much money, then it’s better I go solo as it’s important to make sure I’m not the one suffering with homesickness, because my time is limited with friends and family whereas she can see hers any time.
Anyone else here experienced the same type of judgement/opinions from others who seem to say stuff that makes you feel guilty for going alone? Was it actually selfish of me? I’m getting all these passing comments from people on both sides and it makes me feel that I’m being bitched about a bit
I do the exact same thing, I’m from Vancouver Canada but live with my wife in her hometown in Germany, it’s pretty expensive to travel back to Canada for two people so I usually go alone unless there is an event like a wedding or something.
Being apart in a relationship is good I think sometimes, we are still connected at anytime through our phones but sometimes it’s good to just be without your spouse for a week or so.
It’s hard to explain the power of homesickness to someone who’s never had it, so she understands and I feel after the trip is over and I’m back home our relationship is better.