Long story short, I got ridiculously homesick over the past 3 years and decided it was time to go and visit family. It literally wasn’t financially possible to go with my wife, but everyone seems to be commenting on the fact that I came alone?
It’s like ‘it’s great to see you, but it would have been nice to see you with your wife’ and ‘isn’t your wife sad that you came without her?’
The way me and my wife saw it was that all of my friends and family are in this country, whereas hers are in the place we decided to live in. If we don’t have much money, then it’s better I go solo as it’s important to make sure I’m not the one suffering with homesickness, because my time is limited with friends and family whereas she can see hers any time.
Anyone else here experienced the same type of judgement/opinions from others who seem to say stuff that makes you feel guilty for going alone? Was it actually selfish of me? I’m getting all these passing comments from people on both sides and it makes me feel that I’m being bitched about a bit
I experience this all the time especially as a woman coming from a patriarchal Asian culture. Despite the fact that husband and I live happily independently, relatives always like to say “where is he? Why is he not coming with you?” Like there’s something wrong. It is annoying, but I remind myself they have different value systems and I have learned to ignore them. Husband does join occasionally and only for special occasions like my brother’s wedding or coming to see me when we did long distance for a short while. We are both happy making the most of our time apart so that we can treasure our time together.