In all sincerity, how do you get out and find work and should you? I’m 40F and have barely left this country. I don’t know how to make a better life for me and my children and I’m not even sure that this isn’t still the ‘safest place’ as the saying has always been. Are all governments corrupt? Are they all at risk of war? Are rich people and corporations given legal passes and tax breaks everywhere? Is there gang violence, racism and sexism everywhere? I want to live without fear that my kids could be killed by some idiot with guns, I want our family to live a life free from servitude just to to pay for car+home+health insurance and not worry we could die simply because we couldn’t afford to pay the highest price for medical care in the world, and I want to know the government or a corporation won’t be allowed to harm people and places with toxic chemicals or skipping safety measures. I want to be more than fuel for capitalism. This is a serious question. I’ve intentionally left my home country out but I’m sure you have guessed.
You wanted to be strong, independent, equal with men, working hard… Now you go it.
Answer: Have a good man 😁
Immigration is a little like going to the army, you know it will be difficult but you come out as a different person. We’ve done it twice, and I’d do it again, it’s an experience that helps you challenge yourself like nothing else.
There is no magical country that is “safe” with affordable healthcare, a balanced government, low crime and a cost of living that doesn’t involve constantly working just to survive.
Look what you’ve let propaganda do to you. And at 40 years old? Wow
The U.S. is not particularly safe. It’s about middle of the road at 128.
Given the anxious tone in your writing, I’m wondering if a good old fashioned social media and news detox of some 6 months would be the most beneficial immediate action you could take.
If after removing the infotainment garbage that’s being moderated, curated and subsequently force fed as truths you still feel you and your kids are in such a bleak spot, then by all means explore alternatives. I’ve already seen great comments about other places in this thread, so no need for me to add more.
Just be warned that the other places have their own variation of the same polarization in mainstream media with the purpose of making you mad, afraid, and if they can get their way, meek & complicit.
I don’t see anxiety in the writing, I see someone who sees clearly what’s happening in their own country, and the lies that people are told about how great it all is. Maybe OP is now questioning what’s behind the positive exterior of other countries.
Reducing social media won’t make her less woken up.
I moved from the US to Belgium last year at 38.5 years old and it’s been great. The thing about moving tho: wherever you are, there you are. So if you have a negative and critical outlook on life, you will have it no matter where you go.
Beautifully said.
I moved to China at 41 and started over. Best thing I ever did. Love my life.
Imagine being this naive at that age ….
Do it! Life doesn’t end at 40
Don’t ever not do something because of your age. In a few years you will look at 40 and think “I was a baby”. Just do it. Any age, any stage.
The problem isn’t your home country. It’s your mind. You’ve allowed a propaganda matrix to essentially take everything from you. Its only going to get worse if you keep using the tv/internet
Just make some money, love your husband, and be there for your kids
You should sit down with your husband and make a plan for how you can solve this. With 2 incomes pretty much anything is possible.
If it’s actually worse, you move back to your home country. I left the US for similar reasons and am very happy in Canada. However, if Canada changes then I’ll just go back home.
Moving countries is hard and takes a lot of research, planning, and guts. However, It’s doable and can be a amazing ride. Usually once you decide on where (first hurdle). You have to figure out how to get permission to do so. As an American you can go on as a tourist to most places in the world but if you want to live somewhere longer than 90 days you most likely need a visa of some sort.
In general you have an employer in your target country sponsor you. The other major way is sponsoring your self (with proof of stable income like a pension or a sizeable amount of assets). The other most common way is through marriage or heritage (you can prove you have family ties to the place). I’m overgeneralizing as each country has their own immigration system, but those are the big three.
My suggestion is to start educating yourself. If you’re not sure how to do that, then surround yourself with people who have similar interests to find resources and fixate on finding out more and more. I hope you can enjoy this part, it was really exciting and scary for my family but once it was decided we were moving somewhere, I knew I was getting out so everyday wasn’t so bleak because I was taking concrete steps towards my exit plan.
Good luck