In all sincerity, how do you get out and find work and should you? I’m 40F and have barely left this country. I don’t know how to make a better life for me and my children and I’m not even sure that this isn’t still the ‘safest place’ as the saying has always been. Are all governments corrupt? Are they all at risk of war? Are rich people and corporations given legal passes and tax breaks everywhere? Is there gang violence, racism and sexism everywhere? I want to live without fear that my kids could be killed by some idiot with guns, I want our family to live a life free from servitude just to to pay for car+home+health insurance and not worry we could die simply because we couldn’t afford to pay the highest price for medical care in the world, and I want to know the government or a corporation won’t be allowed to harm people and places with toxic chemicals or skipping safety measures. I want to be more than fuel for capitalism. This is a serious question. I’ve intentionally left my home country out but I’m sure you have guessed.
It is pretty simple. Apply for expat job that provides relocation for you and family. If you have children, you either need a salary to afford the children schooling in international school (unless state school suffices), or have the company pay for it. They offer the job, pay your moving expenses and you leave.
On arrival, get your bank accounts open, get your kids in school or hire a nanny, and you are off to the races. Not too much more complicated than that. It is like a holiday with extra steps, except you never come back and you take two suitcases instead of one. And there is some extra admin. Most peoples issues moving overseas are emotional rather than logistical. They can do it easily if they are qualified, but they have problems leaving their family/home comforts to step into the unknown.
From the sounds of it in your case, you have put up a huge wall between step A (wanting to move abroad) and step B (doing actual physical job applications to make it happen). Don’t keep building that wall higher with all this anxiety. Just apply for roles and see what you get. You won’t be forced to take it if you have a change of heart, but who knows, it might just change your life.