One thing you should know about the military is that there is no certainty with job hours or locations. I’ve been the military for 20 years and I’ve held a normal work shift (7am-4pm) for about 2 years total. Those other 18 years were bouncing between working weird off-shifts and deployments. Honestly, I’m just worried about your claim about not being independent…military spouses need to be highly independent because of the frequency of their significant other working off-shifts or going on months long deployments. I hope your fiancé discussed in full about what you’re signing up for because that reality check is going to hit you hard, if you aren’t expecting it. My wife and I did the exact thing you’ll be going through. She is from China and lived with her parents her whole life. We got married and I moved her out to the States to be with me and guess what…a month after being married I got deployed. I’ve deployed 6 times since we’ve been married with the longest one being 5 months. If you really do care and love this man, be there for him IF changes happen and you’re forced to hold the house down while he’s deployed. Its hard on us to leave our families and I promise if you can make it through these upcoming tough times, your family will be happier and stronger once he retires or separates.
One thing you should know about the military is that there is no certainty with job hours or locations. I’ve been the military for 20 years and I’ve held a normal work shift (7am-4pm) for about 2 years total. Those other 18 years were bouncing between working weird off-shifts and deployments. Honestly, I’m just worried about your claim about not being independent…military spouses need to be highly independent because of the frequency of their significant other working off-shifts or going on months long deployments. I hope your fiancé discussed in full about what you’re signing up for because that reality check is going to hit you hard, if you aren’t expecting it. My wife and I did the exact thing you’ll be going through. She is from China and lived with her parents her whole life. We got married and I moved her out to the States to be with me and guess what…a month after being married I got deployed. I’ve deployed 6 times since we’ve been married with the longest one being 5 months. If you really do care and love this man, be there for him IF changes happen and you’re forced to hold the house down while he’s deployed. Its hard on us to leave our families and I promise if you can make it through these upcoming tough times, your family will be happier and stronger once he retires or separates.