When I was expecting our first child years ago, my husband’s dad was sick back in their home country and he was about to leave to be with him (thinking he would die) and would have missed our child being born… Not saying it’s right but I think there are many dads that don’t connect with their babies until they’re earthside.

That said, the best advice I can think of is for both of you to apply for remote jobs asap to maximize finances no matter where you are. That also bodes well for moving internationally/visas if needed.

I’m sorry you’re going through this! Sending positive vibes for you and the baby especially!