Not selfish but they probably are either just being polite and it’s their way of asking about her or they were curious to meet the person you chose to spend your life with.

Perfectly normal question…

Having a language gap is quite difficult to adjust to (my cousin and her fam lives in Sweden and she had to learn Swedish).

My suggestion is you have to decide where your happiness lies. Is it with your career progression or with your pass times.

Of its with career both India and Sweden should be good? But if you feel you are giving up by going to India, something is holding you back try a little harder to fit in before you do. Learn the language, try and make friends, find circles such as Indians that live there to feel more at home.

If its pass time after work that fuels you then it’s better to go back home where you can relate to your culture.

Just a warning, speaking the same language won’t necessarily close the culture gap. Every country you go to will feel alien the first few months or years. Your adaptability is what will make it a success.

It’s really sad his mom is unwell and sorry you are both going through this.

I have had a sick parent before and they had to relocate back to india for a time and unfortunately I didn’t get to see my father during that period apart from flying him home to get treatment. I had to stay in the country I live in to help have a stable job and pay medical bills because my sibling couldnt bear it all on his own, understandably. I’m very fortunate he had surgery and thanks to the Almighty he is here today.

Your husband’s first duty to everyone even traditionally is to ensure financial stability to

1. Pay the bills
2. Take care of medical needs where possible.
3. Maintain as much as possible a comfortable life for you and your baby.

How will he do this without a job? His very first duty right now is to you, especially because you are pregnant with his child and his parents grand children.

Can he not just do visitations? Are there no family members to take care of mom, nurses that can be organized etc?

No one can replace mom, for now negotiate on a visit. Let him go see her then you deal with relocating later.

He could attend interviews remotely and all of you move together when he finds a stable and well paying job?