Does anyone else have the experience of being in a relationship where you’re from different countries but you met and started a life in a third? And then you tried to live in either of your home countries but your relationship somehow works better when you’re in a third country?
Or am I alone in this? It’s a very strange existence.
YES! We have lived in all 3 (his country, my country and a third country) and are currently in the process of moving back to the 3rd country. We’ve been living in my country the past few years and it just doesn’t work, he doesn’t fit in here and I end up feeling like I constantly have to mediate between my husband and the country. I’m very happy and relieved we decided to move again, though there is also a sense of loss and sadness that we couldn’t make it work.
I completely understand where you’re coming from and it is indeed a strange existence. You lose a little part of who you are in order to be with this person. It’s worth it, for me anyway, but it is a sacrifice that people who haven’t been in this situation don’t understand. It’s very affirming to read about other people going through the same!