Long story short, I got ridiculously homesick over the past 3 years and decided it was time to go and visit family. It literally wasn’t financially possible to go with my wife, but everyone seems to be commenting on the fact that I came alone?
It’s like ‘it’s great to see you, but it would have been nice to see you with your wife’ and ‘isn’t your wife sad that you came without her?’
The way me and my wife saw it was that all of my friends and family are in this country, whereas hers are in the place we decided to live in. If we don’t have much money, then it’s better I go solo as it’s important to make sure I’m not the one suffering with homesickness, because my time is limited with friends and family whereas she can see hers any time.
Anyone else here experienced the same type of judgement/opinions from others who seem to say stuff that makes you feel guilty for going alone? Was it actually selfish of me? I’m getting all these passing comments from people on both sides and it makes me feel that I’m being bitched about a bit
I think objectively traveling without your partner is seen as the less optimal way to travel. Regardless of the reason, it does seem like you’re getting an opportunity that she isn’t getting to enjoy.
People will definitely perceive that. Instead of taking it personally, you should double down on how amazing your wife is for being so understanding. She is pretty amazing, most people would definitely be dissapointed to be left behind.
Change your mindset into one that’s grateful, rather than being defensive.