In all sincerity, how do you get out and find work and should you? I’m 40F and have barely left this country. I don’t know how to make a better life for me and my children and I’m not even sure that this isn’t still the ‘safest place’ as the saying has always been. Are all governments corrupt? Are they all at risk of war? Are rich people and corporations given legal passes and tax breaks everywhere? Is there gang violence, racism and sexism everywhere? I want to live without fear that my kids could be killed by some idiot with guns, I want our family to live a life free from servitude just to to pay for car+home+health insurance and not worry we could die simply because we couldn’t afford to pay the highest price for medical care in the world, and I want to know the government or a corporation won’t be allowed to harm people and places with toxic chemicals or skipping safety measures. I want to be more than fuel for capitalism. This is a serious question. I’ve intentionally left my home country out but I’m sure you have guessed.
Firstly, pick where and how you want to live.
Visit there a couple of years before the move. Alone and with the kids. Get an idea for the local schools, visit the schools and confirm places before your move, leverage the private system if in doubt. Identify where and how you’ll be financing yourself. Look at visa constraints.
Then look at the local activities and pattern of migration - are there new adults with kids the same age moving to the place where you want to live (so you don’t just have to break into existing friendships dating back to pre-school) are there activities that your kids would like to do there. Are the local population engaged in these activities?
Then look at your support network, how will you balance work life, school/afterschool activities, logistics. What support will you need, language, au pairs, parents, other parents etc. are there welcoming meetings and times in the year when it’s best to arrive (school pattern etc)
What will you need in the first 18 months that the kids will be getting settled? How distant is the culture from your own (not just national cultures, but professional experience, income distribution, social norms of behaviour).
Ask for help in the local population and start integrating / making friends before you move. (Clubs and societies help with this).