I moved from Italy to California two years ago for university and now I’m at the point where I need to start looking for a job. My boyfriend is in Italy and my project has always been to eventually go back and live with him. Now I don’t know if I want that anymore. He’s the person of my life and all my family and friends are in Italy, but I don’t want to leave California. I’m attached to this idea of big opportunities I have here in California. I belong both here and there, I have the feeling I’m giving up on my future if I go back. Also I feel it would be somewhat a personal failure to go back to the small italian city where my boyfriend lives. Has anyone had a similar experience?
What’s your timeline with your boyfriend? Would you like to get married, kids?
The reason I’m asking is because when I got out of university I mainly wanted to work on my career, have fun and travel. I moved to the US with my husband then. My priorities changed when I had my two kids though, which is why I’m moving back to Europe after 6 years. So it might not be the right time for you to move back now. You don’t have to decide if you’re both content at the moment. Can you talk with your boyfriend about it?