Im going to share an observation. Tell me if you’ve seen this regardless of the country. Got a relative who came back to the states to bury his wife who passed away overseas. He noted after the funeral everyone went back to their lives. Upon returning to India where he’s been only a 1.5 yrs, he was swarmed with comfort and condolences by ppl he just met. He is not Indian. Example 2, when my father mom passed years back, we went down to see him. We were the only ones that showed up at that point and they know a lot of people. He said, if he was in haiti, his house would be swarmed. But in the states, its empty. Anyone else seen this phenomenon of how different cultures respond to the grieving? (serious replies only please)
You know why? Because people in India knew him. He was spending time in that community forming bonds. And he stopped building the community in the states so the emotional ties weren’t there.
When my grandmother died, my grandpas house was full of people for over a month. You know why? They chose to be active in their church and community and people felt connected to them in their recent memory.
The grass is greener where you water it.
That’s not entirely true. I’m Indian and the society there is really more supportive of grieving. I live in the west now and I find the society here cold. They do that to give you space, and that’s probably what some people need. But there are those who need more of their community around them at times like this (and child birth etc) and do not receive it.
Exactly
U assumed a lot. I dont think what u said applies here. He is super close to his family in the States and they are a horde of them. Thats the nature of that clan. Appreciate feedback though.