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  • la_mukka@alien.topBtoExpatsDating is so tough
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    1 year ago

    This is 100% true. I have met my (now) husband while both of us were living and working in a country that wasn’t our own. After this, I have moved to one country and he was transferred to a different one, which has left us in a distant relationship pretty early on - mind you, none of us was looking for a relationship, let alone all the extra work that distance entails. We decided to give it a go, nonetheless, because we were happy with one another, and we spent a few months separated but he managed to transfer to where I was. Shortly after we moved in together, and we kept on moving from one country to the other (in fact, we’re planning to move again). Curiously enough, we’ve lived together in my country and in his and those were the two countries we felt the worst at…lol We always decide our next steps together and we prioritise what is best for both of us because we love and care for eachother, and that is what makes it work. When a country is not good for one of us, it is not good for both of us, and there are hundreds of countries/regions we can continue to explore until we die - remember, nothing is set in stone.

    At the same time, I do believe that it is much better to realise what you just realised, now, than in the long run, after uprooting your life (or both your lives), which would have taken a much heavier toll.


  • I am going through something similar after moving to a country I’d really been looking forward to for a long time. I have however given it longer than 10 months, we even got a mortgage here and are currently renovating our first home, but on the whole, it just isn’t the place for us, so we will eventually move again, and decide what happens with the house then, but that’s another story. I have lived in quite a few countries other than my own, for about 2-3 years each country and I have easily adapted to, and felt better in every single one of these countries than where I currently am. But I’ve also been back home in between some of these moves and I inevitably get reminded of the reasons that made me leave in the first place. I guess this just goes to say that, you can both give it some more time, and consider other options than that of going back home, idk, it’s just a thought…

    Wishing you luck !