Ah, that’s perfectly reasonable. When you’re with someone for a long enough time, conflict will inevitably arise. The reason you are seeking your past hookups is not necessarily because they were better, but because in that vacuum of travel, where the setting is beautiful and you just don’t have enough time to really get to know someone long term, the moments feel perfect.

I know this because some of my most cinematic experiences have been with guys while I was traveling. The novelty of a new place, mixed with the beauty of getting to know them in some of the most beautiful global landmarks. Most of my DN dates ended up becoming my good friends, haha.

What if you traveled with your partner and built a foundation of excitement with her? It could be your time to focus on building communication and conflict resolution. Alternatively, if you’re really seeking something short term again, you should most likely leave this relationship.