Agreed, I replied right below - I find my answer clumsy but I did my best to try to put it in writing

IMHO parisians and just very different from the rest of the country

I did the opposite thing, spent a couple decades in France and moved to the US 10 years ago.

Had I read your post 10 years ago I would not have understood and just moved on. However, it took me moving back stateside to realize how obnoxious the French can be - including well… myself (I am both).

They/we just don’t realize, until they spent several years outside - and only if they have the opportunity not to mingle only with French (which they/we generally seize) - so I can absolutely relate to what you are saying.

I’ve thought about this a lot, especially as to the “why”. Happy to get into more details offline but my two cents conclusion is that French have a massive superiority complex that leads to what you are experiencing. I could ramble for hours about this so I’ll just stop right there :)

I moved to the east coast for very different reasons (I did lot like working in France) and the time I spent in Paris as a kid makes me immune to most of the issues you’re facing - but I can exactly understand what you are taking about.

The decision is yours to make, but it’s a clear trade off. Everything is far from being perfect here at all. A pros and cons list generally is a great place to start - but it generally is an opportunity that represents a healthy trigger for a move. Moving back without the said opportunity would just be a retreat.