For example, moving around in my own country (UK) I’ve found it difficult to settle, lay roots and build a solid social bubble. I think a factor is that people are usually in well established families and social bubbles by this age (mid 30s).
Another factor specific to the UK is that friends/family are usually fairly commutable wherever you are. I imagine this is different with the US, in that if you move state you are fairly isolated, and so there’s more emphasis for building new social foundations perhaps?
I wonder if it’s like this as an expat? You are, along with most other expats, having to build a new. Doesn’t this lend itself to an easier social building experience? Well, with other fellow expats at least. I guess building it with locals is another challenge completely.
Or am I being naive? Is it just as difficult to “gain entry” into such communities? Again, I guess it varies on location, but I’d be interested to hear your experience.
It’s easier to do something unexpected and unusual in a new environment, like starting a new hobby or joining an organization to make new friends. You’ll feel less impeded by existing habits and people around you. Do it within weeks of moving, before you established any new habits. Cities with international institutions and companies are easier to meet people open to new connections.
If the larger issue is you having trouble to connect with others, you’ll need look inside yourself, perhaps with the help of a therapist, because you will eventually meet your old self again.