Hi everyone, I’m a french man of 31 years old going through a pretty intense depression after spending much of my 20s on the road. I am now in australia in a beautiful coastal town where life is sweet and people are incredibly nice. Thing is: I have been awfully depressed for the last year. I’ve seen most of my friends settling down, establishing themselves in France or australia long term through intense efforts to obtain their permanent residency getting married etc. I always saw myself living abroad, but never made so much effort to settle down anywhere. I’ve only worked in hospitality in the various countries I visited after obtaining my master’s degree in business (which I feel now is what people do when they don’t know what to do for a living). I consider myself open minded, speak three languages fluently, but I always had trouble with anxiety and self confidence. Now that I feel my travel life to be over, I am wondering what to do next. I feel like moving back home with my parents and look for a job somewhere in Barcelona or Toulouse where my family is. But I’m afraid my resume will make me unemployable anywhere. I’m also scared about my financial situation and my capacity to readapt to Europe after living in countries where life was so much easier. I feel like I just need a bit of shared experiences or encouragement. Anyway, it’s good to let it out.

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    1 year ago

    Reddit cracks me up sometimes. So many people think life is over after 30 and/or they can’t do X after 30.

    You’re still young. You still have time to start a new career, get married, and settle down. Hell, most people don’t even do those things until their 30s.

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      1 year ago

      These is however a biological clock a great deal of individuals seems to forget, if you ever picture yourself having kids or a family on your own

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        1 year ago

        And if for men it’s hard, imagine women who suddenly realize they want to settle down and have kids at 39.

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          1 year ago

          True, as a fun fact though older dad’s are also more likely to father kids with down syndrome and genetic issues. It’s just a lot less studied, but being older and less fit is generally bad for everyone, just more obviously so for women.

          Apparently the father being overweight is also linked to lower IQs for babies. Even the father drinking is not ideal so recent research has suggested.