I moved from Italy to California two years ago for university and now I’m at the point where I need to start looking for a job. My boyfriend is in Italy and my project has always been to eventually go back and live with him. Now I don’t know if I want that anymore. He’s the person of my life and all my family and friends are in Italy, but I don’t want to leave California. I’m attached to this idea of big opportunities I have here in California. I belong both here and there, I have the feeling I’m giving up on my future if I go back. Also I feel it would be somewhat a personal failure to go back to the small italian city where my boyfriend lives. Has anyone had a similar experience?
I’ve seen this situation play out before between friends and it’s always very difficult. I used to live in Italy so I understand the difficulties of the job market and you probably have zero career prospects in your bf’s city. Have you done any searches for jobs in Milan or anywhere else in the north. I understand the chances to find something are pretty low but maybe a good compromise is to be a frecciarossa and a regionale away then a 12 hour flight.
Another option is Germany. They’re dying for graduates like you right now. They just revamped their entire visa immigration system because they’re struggling for talent. What about a few years there which is closer to home
Also have you properly looked into US visas, specifically the H1 lottery and know everything you’re getting yourself into. A lot of my foreign friends who came to the US for school didn’t properly look into how difficult it is even for stem graduates