I’m in Britain and I really hate the eyelashes, fillers and makeup here for young girls sometimes and the intense pressure I see everywhere to get them. Poor girlies.

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    I understand what you are saying. When I lived in Belgrade with my daughters, we all felt very safe being out alone at night. No one ever bothered any of us, and, I found a respect towards women that frankly surprised me, as I knew the Balkans had a reputation for macho men. I think you are right when you say that it is not seen as cool to bother women. This also extended itself towards treating the elderly with consideration, and I think this comes from the strong family ties found there. I was also surprised, by the number of young people ( sometimes glamorous young girls, sometimes young boys who looked a bit rough), who could be found popping into a nearby church to pray and light a candle). I experienced genuine warmth in Serbia, and always felt that people would intervene to help.

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      Yea - it was the macho thing that surprised me too. I think in more ‘western’ cultures there’s like a conflation of ‘machoness’ with being sexually aggressive, but that idea is absent in Croatian/Serbian/Bosnian notions of masculinity.

      If you think about it - its actually fairly logical - its less ‘masculine’ to be so desperate that you have to chase/beg/harrass women for attention, and using force against someone who is just physically smaller than you is quite pathetic.